When we get nervous, we make excuses. We make excuses to not love or take care of ourselves. Sometimes life is just too busy- we are too crazy at work, we always have to drive someone SOMEWHERE. Sometimes it’s more important to spend time with your spouse. We also use excuses like “I wanna lose 15 pounds first” and “I just don’t have money right now!” I wanted to write this to show you that no matter the excuse, you CAN do this. Let me show you that no matter what the excuse, YOU ARE WORTHY of self-love!

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“I Don’t Have Enough Time For Myself”

It’s also important to remember that if you aren’t taking care of yourself mentally, you’re not going to be able to handle taking care of everyone else, which makes sense but is actually much harder said than done!  Sometimes I am the WORST at making sure I am giving myself mental health breaks and that’s why I think its so important to share this with you.  I make the same excuses as you and sometimes I need someone to look me in the face and say, “SLOW DOWN, give yourself a break, breathe for a minute!”

At A boudoir photoshoot, you are able to breathe and love yourself for a few hours.  Think of all the energy you’ll save on a daily basis if you stop comparing yourself to others, or stop worrying about what other people will think of how you look.  You get to see where your beauty really comes from and this lifts such a heavy mental weight.

You need to take time for yourself, so why not spend it having and amazing time and getting all glammed up for once?

“I’m not sure where I want to be weight wise, I don’t fit society’s definition of a good size”

Did you know that the body type portrayed in advertising as “ideal” is only possessed naturally by 5% of American Women.  ONLY FIVE PERCENT.

I will say this over and over again – sorry not sorry- but WHY do you have to be a certain size to LOVE yourself?  WHY do you have to fit a strangers messed up idea of perfect to love your own body?  WHY are you comparing your size to everyone else when no two women are the same?!

I think its amazing to have goals and to want to be healthy, but does that mean you have to hate your body to do those things?  ABSOLUTELY NOT!  You should love yourself every step of the way.  Be proud of where you are so that you can be proud of where you’re going.  Have a boudoir session now to celebrate where you are, and then do another one to celebrate how far you went!

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“I never feel sexy or sensual anymore so a boudoir photoshoot must not be for me”


This excuse is the EXACT reason you SHOULD do a boudoir photoshoot!

Often times we lose touch with our sexuality when when life gets crazy because of health/kids/work.  It happens a lot and it is absolutely normal and OK!  A great way to find this side of ourselves again is to have a boudoir shoot to reignite our flame!  I know you have it in you, let me show you!  It might even reignite a spark between you and your spouse (winky wink).

Another thing to remember is that you don’t HAVE to wear lingerie.  If you feel like this does not show your personality, then there are so many other outfit choices to choose from!  If you need ideas, I will gladly talk to you about them.

“A Boudoir Shoot is an investment and I don’t have all the money right now”

Yes, a boudoir shoot IS an investment.  Its also an investment in yourself.  You are investing in your well-being and confidence as well!  Plus- I do offer payment plans!  In order to book your shoot, there is a booking retainer and after that we can set up a payment plan for the remaining balance so its easier on you!  If you have questions about payment plans, shoot me an email while setting up your shoot!

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